quit playing the waiting game


I have to say, I am far from a quitter but there is one thing that I encourage everyone to quit…

Yet another epidemic that plagues us. The waiting game. We are forever and always waiting for something. Waiting for a friend to finish getting ready, waiting to hear back on a job offer, waiting for someone to confirm if they can take that vacation we’ve been talking about, waiting to have enough saved to buy that Benz we always dreamed of owning, waiting to lose weight to buy that cute dress, waiting to have enough money saved to travel to a new place. Or worse. Waiting for someone to be the reason for our happiness. While some of these things you truly need to wait on there are some things within reach. So reach baby, reach.

I have a secret that I think is precious and it would be selfish of me to keep from you. If you want to be happy, be happy. Be HAPPY damn it. Find that happiness within. Stop playing the waiting game in hopes that you will find happiness through someone or something. You have all the happiness you could possibly need bottled up in that beautiful heart of yours. Actually, take your hand, right now, and put it on your chest. Feel that? That’s your heartbeat. One day it will stop, make sure that when it does you’ve fulfilled all your hopes, dreams and desires. Or most of them at least. Otherwise life on this earth wouldn’t have been worthwhile. Imagine. Your life ends and you look back only to realize you spent most of it waiting for someone or something. Pathetic, right?

I have heard so many girls say: “I can’t wait to go to (choose a country) with my future husband”. No. Stop. Go to (choose a country) NOW. Book that ticket, even if you have to go alone. I promise you, you will not regret it. This is so frustrating for me to hear because I was that girl. And then I woke up one day and realized the only person in control of my happiness and destiny was myself. And then I started realizing something else. My world was so tiny. My thoughts were confined to this predetermined way of thinking and my priorities laid within my family, friends, school and a career. Oh. And that notion that I was nobody until I was somebody’s wife. Bullshit. That was bullshit. When I decided I was going to do what I wanted when I wanted I realized that I was finally living. This was the most refreshing realization I ever stumbled upon.

Now. Another thing… While we are on the topic of waiting…

The worst waiting of all my friends, is waiting to get “older” to become more religious or spiritual. Like they say, the graves are full of young people who said they would find God when they got older. I will not sit here and preach because I am so ridiculously far from where I should be in this aspect of my life but like hell I am trying. For me, accepting that God saved us all a place in Heaven and that all we have to do is work for it in this life was what helped me realize the importance of righteousness. I think we take for granted how lucky we are. Local conventions, YouTube and Amazon books are just a few things that have made everything we need to know about religion within reach. We no longer have an excuse as to why we aren’t knowledgeable on this topic. This may piss a lot of people off but I think the spiritual connection you have with your creator, whomever you think it may be, is so extremely precious and if we don’t seek that connection early on in life it may be too late. I feel blessed to have learned so much about morals and ethics through religious teachings and I encourage everyone to explore religion. All religions. In college I took several religion classes outside of my comfort zone. Those were some of my favorite, eye-opening experiences. I gotta say though, religion classes were a close second to Gender and Technology which completely blew my mind. #Nerd.

And lastly, don’t wait for the pain in your foot to go away before going to a doctor. The pain probably won’t go away and you will end up immobile for 6-8 weeks. #FML. I am pretty sure I sprained my foot 7 weeks ago. Instead of going to a doctor I kept brushing it off. Continued to run, kickbox and took a trip to Cali. The other day I woke up and literally couldn’t walk. Turns out I have a nasty sprain in my foot and ankle. No bueno. You only get one body, take care of it, don’t wait until things really hit the fan to get some help!

 So, let’s recap. We are going to stop waiting to feed our mind, body and soul. We are going to quit playing the waiting game and start living life to the fullest. Are we clear here? Great. Now,  excuse me while I plan my next adventure..

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Xx H

Me, not waiting for happiness to come my way in Cali.

Me, not waiting for happiness to come my way in Cali.


5 thoughts on “quit playing the waiting game

  1. dkapss

    LOVE this post Hoda. Especially, “waiting for someone to confirm if they can take that vacation we’ve been talking about” …sounds familiar but now time to PLAN and be HAPPY 🙂

  2. Salma

    I love this, I love you. This post was exactly what I needed. I am playing the waiting game and I am losing precious years of my lifetime and it sucks.

  3. Michelle

    Waiting is so addictive because it is so easy. I am starting to think that anything that is hard means I should probably tackle it: that includes waiting.

    Love this post and I am glad to hear that you figured this out! While the happiest memories are usually the ones with friends and other people (which is why we get so caught up in waiting for them to do something as fun again), I definitely agree that going solo and making NEW friends while taking adventure is just as, if not more, fun and fulfilling.

    Good luck with that foot girlie and use this as an opportunity to keep posting!

  4. Okay, you got me. I like sprinkles on my cupcakes. Judge me.
    And besides, the only waiting game I ever play is waiting for the great “Xx H” to post her next blog entry.

    Great post! Great writing! Great writer!

    Keep it up.


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